|Posted on March 3, 2016 at 8:00 PM|
Speaking vs. Silence
When do you speak or remain silent? I can remember a time I regretted not sharing my feelings. Yet, when I know it will not do any good, I remain silent. I was raised by the golden rule that it is better to be seen than heard. Decades later, the pendulum has swung with society encouraging everyone to share their feelings. It took years for me to find my voice. However, I have quickly learned that not everyone needs to know my opinion. Some times words can be easily misinterpreted causing more problems. I have learned before I speak, I must consider what is my motive? Is it encouraging? Is it supportive? Is this the right time to state negative consequences? Will it cause more conflict? An unkind word, or a bad attitude can quickly cause a barrier between people. Often, the less said is usually the better decision with conversations between two adults.
God tells us in Ecclesiastes 3: 7, There is a time for everything which includes a time to be quiet and a time to speak. It is our responsibility to use wisdom which is better. Another question to ask is when do you voice your opinion? Maybe this subject should be shared in private. Before you speak ask yourself, what is your motive? Will it help the situation?
It is easy to speak out of peer pressure or authority. However, if you can not correct or improve the situation, it maybe best to refrain from speaking until a more appropiate time. Remember God’s is willing to lead you through every situation. He tells us to love our neighbors as ourself—speak with love and kindness.